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A lesson learned: R-E-S-P-E-C-T

A lesson learned: R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me! 

Buying and selling real estate can be a very stressful time for the general population.  Emotions run hot and cold, finances put a strain on couples, negotiations become tense and combative.

I get it.

Early in my real estate career, I allowed myself to be used as a punching bag by my clients and co-brokers.  I would sit in stunned silence as all manner of blame, abuse and disrespect were heaped upon my shoulders.

Believe it or not, I spent many tearful and sleepless nights as a result.  Perhaps it was a lack of confidence in my abilities, a fear of being rejected by my clients, loss of potential income...Likely it was a combination of all of these factors and more.  (We'll skip the analysis of early childhood and adult relationships)

Over the years, I began to realize that the behavior of some people ultimately had nothing to do with Respectme at all. 

Be it the situation or simply common personality traits among certain people, what I know to be true about myself is that I do my very best at all times.  I work hard for my clients within the transaction and keep myself educated on the market, the industry and best practices, I never compromise myself or my client's position, I take my JOB RESPONSIBILITIES seriously and at no time am I due anything other then R-E-S-P-E-C-T from anyone.

To quote Aretha, "Ain't goin' do you wrong, 'cause I don't wanna!"

Being able to look myself squarely in the eye every morning is more important to me than any amount of money.  I am principled, loyal and willing.  When I give professional advice, it is based on my knowledge and experience.  I have no expectation that my advice will be followed.  I understand and respect the right of others to make their own decisions.  Ultimately, that is what makes the real estate industry work.

I am comfortable and careful working within the confines of the dictates of my clients' decisions.

BUT...there is a line in the sand.  Professional, personal and intimate relationships will be respectful.  It is a two way street and I demand the respect that I am due as a person and a real estate professional.

There are some who need to be gently reminded to remain respectful.  I can do that.

There are some who need to be firmly reminded to remain respectful. I can do that.

There are some who need to be dismissed because they are unable to remain respectful.  I can do that too.

Just remember to do your best, tell the truth, lead with your heart, be empathetic, ask for help when you need it, be respectful of others and have enough respect for yourself to demand the same.

Hats off to the Queen of Soul, Miss Aretha Franklin!

 

 

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Comment balloon 24 commentsJenna Dixon • June 01 2016 06:41AM

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Everyone just needs to do their best to get along.  Behave themselves.  Be courteous, especially in a professional atmosphere.  So many people just don't care about anything anymore, other than themselves. 

Posted by Rob Arnold, Metro Orlando Full Service - Investor Friendly & F (Sand Dollar Realty Group, Inc.) over 2 years ago

Jenna,  I can relate to all that you wrote here.  I too was a punching bag for duche bags that know nothing of respect ... only greed.  Much of that abuse was from other agents!  Congratulations on a well deserved Featured post. 

Posted by Kathleen Daniels, San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist (KD Realty - 408.972.1822) over 2 years ago

Those who treat us disrespectfully are bullies - and they probably treat everyone that way.  I parted ways last year with the ultimate bully - and now someone else has to worry about it.  

Posted by Margaret Goss, Chicago's North Shore & Winnetka Real Estate (Baird & Warner Real Estate) over 2 years ago

Getting to the root of the feeling causing the outburst goes a long way to diffusing what can turn into a blame or bashing session.  Of course, if you just have a a person on the other end that loves to throw their weight around, they can go do that with another agent.

Posted by Chris Ann Cleland, Associate Broker, Bristow, VA (Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA) over 2 years ago

Still to this day I have a flinch reaction when someone shows me disrespect that somehow it's my fault. However, even if I was to blame for a misunderstanding, or an incorrect form being filled out, or a deadline being missed, you can still respectfully approach me about it. 

Posted by Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert, Broker/Owner of Zion Realty ZionRealtyAZ.com (Zion Realty) over 2 years ago

Hi Jenna, 

Boundaries are important in every relationship, personal and professional. If we don't set them, clients and others will trample us.  Standing up for yourself doesn't mean being mean, it just takes as you put it, gentle but sometimes firm reminders, and sometimes walking away.  Great post.

Posted by Dan Tabit (Keller Williams Bellevue) over 2 years ago

This is a good post to read, and I wish the ones that NEED to read it . . . would.  But, you're singing to the choir here.  Great lesson learned and thanks for the share.

Posted by Carla Muss-Jacobs, RETIRED (RETIRED / State License is Inactive) over 2 years ago

Good for you Jenna Dixon to stand up for yourself. It is a hard industry filled with not so nice people and it starts with respect, throw in communication and end with respect. 

Posted by Scott Godzyk, One of Manchester NH's Leading Agents (Godzyk Real Estate Services) over 2 years ago

Congratulations on a well deserved featured post. You do have to stand up for yourself especially when you know you have done your best to serve your client.

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.346.1799) over 2 years ago

Jenna - I think many of us have been punching bags in this business for no good reason.

Posted by Olga Simoncelli, CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management (Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate) over 2 years ago

I've not experienced this but I am so glad that you got to the point of demanding and expecting respect!  

Posted by 1 ~Judi & Don Barrett & Chassy Eastep - Integrity, BS Ed, Integrity Real Estate Services -IDABEL OK (Integrity Real Estate Services 118 SE AVE N, Idabel, OK 74745) over 2 years ago

It took me a while to get there.  Some of it came with the wisdom that comes with age.  But like you now I simply dismiss people who can't remain respectful.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 2 years ago

Jenna Dixon - it's not easy for many, I'd say.

When we know we are doing the best for our clients, the RESPECT comes automatically. And there are different forms of respect - one of them is, getting referrals from these advocates who respect you - because ....

""Ain't goin' do you wrong, 'cause I don't wanna!""

Posted by Praful Thakkar, Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale (LAER Realty Partners) over 2 years ago

Congrats on the feature - Respect is a pet pieve of mine actually - I hear all the time how the young DEMAND respect - I shake my head and ask "What did you do to deserve respect".  Too many don't really understand what true respect is - thanks for sharing Jenna Dixon 

Posted by Jennifer Mackay, Your Bay County Florida Realtor 850.774.6582 (Counts Real Estate Group, Inc.) over 2 years ago

Absolutely! Relationships should be respectful, and if they aren't, we need to speak up and ensure the disrespectful behavior does not continue.

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com) over 2 years ago

Thanks so much for sharing your experience. This is excellent reading for newer agents.

Posted by Roy Kelley, Roy and Dolores Kelley Photographs (Realty Group Referrals) over 2 years ago

Hi Jenna, I hear you and that is a lesson that once learned sticks with you. Thank you for sharing your experience and participating in the contest.

Posted by Debbie Reynolds, Your Dedicated Clarksville TN Real Estate Agent (Platinum Properties) over 2 years ago

What quite a few people are not aware of is that traumatic events caused by parents when they were younger is still at work in them in the present. The stuff comes out when it comes out and I do my best to point out...why are you acting this way? That's precisely what they are doing...acting out what was done to them. Thank you for your posting

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) over 2 years ago

I think that by keeping myself above board, good people see it, and those who don't can move on. We could use alot more respect in this business, but doing the right thing and keeping it classy, makes me able to sleep at night:)

Posted by Pam Orzan PA ~ Delray Beach Realtor Property Matters LLC, Selling Delray, Boca Raton, & Boynton Beach (Property Matters LLC) over 2 years ago

YES! Sing it and share it Jenna! Great post that gets to the heart of who we are and who we shall remain.

Posted by Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!, So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR (Prado Real Estate South) over 2 years ago

Right on, Jenna. This is a great and I agree with you. Congratulations on the feature. 

Posted by Debbie Laity, Your Real Estate Resource for Delta County, CO (Cedaredge Land Company) over 2 years ago

Respecting ourselves is a great lesson to learn - and not only in business. Your post is great, Jenna. Thank for sharing.

Posted by Lottie Kendall, Serving San Francisco and the Silicon Valley (Pacific Union International) over 2 years ago

Jenna Dixon - I do my best to live by the Golden Rule. Cross me once, shame on you...cross me twice - YOU BETTER WATCH OUT!

 

Posted by Sheri Sperry - MCNE®, (928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR® (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) over 2 years ago

Jenna, this is a great post and one that everyone getting into or spending a lifetime in real estate should read. And RESPECT can take on many hats, including calling other agents back, answering their questions, and always treating others the way we would like to be treated. Good job!

Posted by Susan Laxson CRS, Local Knowledge & Global Network (Palm Properties) over 2 years ago

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